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December 14, 2016

Dear Mama, It Gets Better

Dear Mama, It Gets Better.  A love Letter to all of the hard working, exhausted Moms.  Parenting, Motherhood, and New Mom Advice to keep Your Sanity with children, Babies and toddlers.

To the sleep deprived mama crying on the bathroom floor who’s ready to throw in the towel: it gets better.

I know it’s hard to remember because today is a bad day but you are not alone.  I know today all too well… it’s a day that went off track two hours before you even planned to wake up.  

You woke up to a baby with a bloody nose and a bed covered in blood.  There’s quite literally nothing to eat for breakfast and you’re out of coffee.  The sink is full of dishes from the night before and the entire toy box is emptied onto your living room floor.  Your child won’t stop crying and throwing and kicking.  You haven’t showered in three days.  You have a to-do list a mile long and a child that won’t let you put them down.  You have no idea what that green stinky stuff mashed into your carpet is.  Your laundry has been in the washer so long that it needs rewashed.  You’re about to scream because all you want is a glass of wine and a tub of ice cream and it’s not even 9 AM.  Sound familiar? 

Breathe, mama.  Just stop for a second, take a deep breath, and give yourself some grace.  The bad days might outnumber the good but one thing I’ve learned about motherhood is that it comes in phases and phases don’t last forever.  It will get better.   I know it might not seem like it now but I promise that it does.  Maybe not tomorrow or even next week but one day you’ll wake up and life will be good.  You’ll get a full night’s sleep and have a happy child and you won’t want to lock yourself in the bathroom to hide.

There will come a day that you’re staring at this perfect little human you created and it just hits you that the rough patch you went through last week is finally over.  Your child actually ate a meal that wasn’t mac and cheese and they went to sleep at their bedtime.  You went the entire day without fighting your toddler because they wanted to wear sandals even though it’s snowing outside.  Your kitchen is clean and laundry is folded and you didn’t have to rely on Mickey Mouse Clubhouse to get you through the day.  

The good days will come.  I know that you never imagined motherhood being so hard but it really does get better. The hard days make you question whether or not you’re cut out for motherhood.  They beat you down and make you feel like a failure.  And it’s okay to yell and cry because getting upset does not make you a bad mom.  So go ahead and lock yourself in the bathroom, cry it out and trust that the good days are coming.  One day soon you’ll get a big hug or an “I love you mama” and it will make every single bad day worth it.

Breathe, mama.  It gets better.

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  • Amanda McNeil

    So good! I needed the reminder as my babe is getting his first molars and he’s a little wacky right now!!!

    December 14, 2016 at 8:39 pm Reply
  • Kim

    Thank you for this. I’m currently sitting on the floor of my toddler’s room crying and trying to get her to go back to sleep. It’s the dead of night and she’s been fighting sleep for almost three hours now. It’s been I don’t know how long since I slept the whole night through and I was starting to feel a mini meltdown coming on. Through my tears I stumbled upon this and I so needed to read it. Thank you for giving me hope.

    January 29, 2017 at 5:49 am Reply
    • Caffeine & Cuddles

      Oh mama, we’ve all been there! I’m so glad that my words could give you hope because it WILL get better! Cry it out if you need to and take a deep breath. Hang in there Kim! xoxo

      January 29, 2017 at 3:34 pm Reply
  • Nina

    I only have two kids, four months and three years. I feel like I’m so stressed and sleep deprived that I could get physically ill. Thanks for the reminder that these days will be gone soon.

    December 17, 2017 at 7:06 pm Reply
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