To the sleep deprived mama crying on the bathroom floor who’s ready to throw in the towel: it gets better.
I know it’s hard to remember because today is a bad day but you are not alone. I know today all too well… it’s a day that went off track two hours before you even planned to wake up.
You woke up to a baby with a bloody nose and a bed covered in blood. There’s quite literally nothing to eat for breakfast and you’re out of coffee. The sink is full of dishes from the night before and the entire toy box is emptied onto your living room floor. Your child won’t stop crying and throwing and kicking. You haven’t showered in three days. You have a to-do list a mile long and a child that won’t let you put them down. You have no idea what that green stinky stuff mashed into your carpet is. Your laundry has been in the washer so long that it needs rewashed. You’re about to scream because all you want is a glass of wine and a tub of ice cream and it’s not even 9 AM. Sound familiar?
Breathe, mama. Just stop for a second, take a deep breath, and give yourself some grace. The bad days might outnumber the good but one thing I’ve learned about motherhood is that it comes in phases and phases don’t last forever. It will get better. I know it might not seem like it now but I promise that it does. Maybe not tomorrow or even next week but one day you’ll wake up and life will be good. You’ll get a full night’s sleep and have a happy child and you won’t want to lock yourself in the bathroom to hide.
There will come a day that you’re staring at this perfect little human you created and it just hits you that the rough patch you went through last week is finally over. Your child actually ate a meal that wasn’t mac and cheese and they went to sleep at their bedtime. You went the entire day without fighting your toddler because they wanted to wear sandals even though it’s snowing outside. Your kitchen is clean and laundry is folded and you didn’t have to rely on Mickey Mouse Clubhouse to get you through the day.
The good days will come. I know that you never imagined motherhood being so hard but it really does get better. The hard days make you question whether or not you’re cut out for motherhood. They beat you down and make you feel like a failure. And it’s okay to yell and cry because getting upset does not make you a bad mom. So go ahead and lock yourself in the bathroom, cry it out and trust that the good days are coming. One day soon you’ll get a big hug or an “I love you mama” and it will make every single bad day worth it.
Breathe, mama. It gets better.